I thought one of the cool parts about being gay was that I didn’t have to adhere to all these oppressive norms that heterosexuals have to live under but nope these gay white males are coming in talking about “gay at home dad!” “promiscuity in our community has got to stop!” and “be masculine stop acting like a female!” like what the fuck the drag queens at Stonewall did not throw their pumps at the police for this shit.
Religious freedom my ass. “But the institution of marriage is sacred!” Yeah, well, the Native Americans thought their land was sacred, and yet…
Let me begin by saying I don’t hate straight people. I really don’t. I have straight friends. I just wish that straight people weren’t always trying to shove their lifestyle down our throats, do you know what I mean?
If I remember correctly Adam and Eve had two sons and one killed the other so that’s straight parenting in action for you.
Putting off the 4,000 words of novel I have to write by playing with my webcam.
On gay characters in gay films
I’m noticing a trend in underground and independent films with predominantly gay themes and subjects: our gay characters are flat and one-dimensional.
Now, when I say “gay characters,” I’m really talking about gay male protagonists. I’m a big fan of queer cinema, and based on some of the recent underground films I’ve seen, I actually think lesbian, bisexual, and trans* protagonists have largely avoided the stunted character development that seems to be plaguing films that focus on gay males.
I keep running into gay protagonists that are nice, family oriented, hardworking guys who just want to “fit in” to society and raise a family in peace. They, for the most part, are human manifestations of the argument that “gay guys are just like everyone else! They’re not so different from you. They espouse family values and they really just want to get married like straight couples.”
I don’t think that argument is all the way invalid, though I think it does smack heavily of queer assimilation. Some gay guys really do just want to settle down and live a life that more or less mirrors that of a Southern Baptist straight couple except with two dudes instead of a man and a woman. But that’s not the subject at hand here. What I’m saying is that the mainstream gay rights movement, a movement that seems to be almost entirely focused on gay men being able to get married, is killing interesting gay characters in film.
I just realized I have no picture of me on this blog for you all to see. Here I am on the 4th of July last summer. Land of the free, home of the me.
Can We Agree to Disagree?
I just don’t understand people who say, “don’t let politics get so personal! We can disagree without being disagreeable.”
Like… what the fuck do you even mean by that?
Maybe it’s just because I live in Oklahoma where they tried to reinstate DADT for the National Guard, declared that personhood begins the moment a sperm touches an egg, and banned Sharia law even though we have more cows than practicing Muslims, but I still feel like I need to get this point across.
Here’s a sobering dose of reality for all you “can’t we all just get along” folks - politics get personal.
Anti-Gay Bullying: My Experience
I held the gun up to the side of my head and took a look at myself in the mirror. It felt awkward in my hand - it was a lot heavier than I had expected it to be and I was struggling to hold it steady. Or maybe I was trembling. Either way, the heaviness was a good thing. It was the weight of the choice I had to make, and it certainly felt like the power of life and death was in my hand.
A secular gay’s thoughts on Christianity
Because I am a gay rights activist, and because I am gay, people often assume I am an atheist. If I am arguing with a Christian over gay rights, they will oftentimes casually refer to me as a “non-believer” before it is ever established what I do or do not believe. And I don’t usually bother to correct them either.
My Final Rant on Chick-Fil-A
My original intent for this article was to write a thoughtful analysis of the craziness that was Chick-Fil-A appreciation day. But nope. You will get none of that from me. Because I am frustrated, very frustrated, with how this all went down.
“Gay Rights Advocates will Bring About the Next Holocaust
WND Columnist Warns Gay Rights Advocates will Bring About the Next Holocaust | rightwingwatch.org
WorldNetDaily columnist and regular Fox News guest Erik Rush warns that the protests against Chick-fil-A by gay rights advocates represent a reappearance of the Nazi Party’s tactics against Germany’s Jewish population. He said the left wants to use the issue of gay rights to distract from economic problems, turning Christians into scapegoats that are targeted for extermination: “the goal here is absolute power, the primary objective to supplant God with government. To achieve this, religious doctrine must be eradicated, and the chief impediment to that is Christianity.”
He claims that homosexuality is a tool to grow the size of government, arguing that “replacing normalcy with deviance and morality with immorality are simply methods toward disenfranchising Christians, resulting in the convenient byproduct of a populace that is governed by its basest instincts – and thus easily controlled. As we have seen, such populations become willing to tolerate – and even participate in – all manner of atrocities.” “It began with a boycott of their businesses” Rush writes, “and the rest is history.”
h/t: Brian Tashman at RWW
LGBT vs. Conservative Christians: Two sides of the same coin?
The LGBT community and the Christian conservative community are not two sides of the same coin with extremes that are just as bad as the other. When an LGBT activist and a Christian conservative “agree to disagree,” they walk away from the argument with the status quo unchanged. This is a status quo undeniably, irreconcilably, and ridiculously tilted in favor of the religious person.
Because religious people enjoy rights that an LGBT does not. All kinds of rights. They literally take it as persecution when they are not allowed to control things using their religion as a foundation for law. Also, mischaracterization of LGBT people and Christians does occur - but let’s dig deeper into that, because those are not equivalents either. Mischaracterization of a Christian may manifest itself into being called a “bigot” or a funny cartoon in The Onion. Mischaracterization of a gay person may result in accusations of pedofilia, “sinful” behavior, and even death/hate crimes.
So what bothers me the most about this argument of false equivalency is that both sides are just as bad as the other and in order to be “middle of the road” let’s call out the “bad stuff” in the LGBT community because surely they are just as bad as the “bad stuff” in the Christian conservative community! I mean, we’re both just two sides in the culture war, right?
Except one side is fighting for rights, and the other side is fighting to take those rights away. One side has come up with attack after attack along the lines of “let’s put gay people behind electric fences” and “gay people deserve death” while the other side comes up with a “well god isn’t real and you’re a bigot.”
One side has a higher murder rate, suicide rate, and hate crime rate. The other side cries persecution when gay people push BACK.
I agree with being civil. I agree with trying to change people’s minds we don’t agree with. They are, in fact, the people we NEED to be reaching.
I don’t agree with doing that at the expense of our convictions, with appeasing the other side by saying “our extreme is just as bad as yours,” and pretending like we are just two players in a game of chess who have reached a stalemate.
Because we are winning, after all. So far. We have a president who just came out in favor of same-sex marriage. We have a major party who has just added marriage equality into their platform. We have every reason in the world to be optimistic - and I, for one, would like to win our rights without having to throw ourselves at the mercy of those who have, time and time again, proven they just don’t fully recognize our humanity.
Chasing the Light: Change IS Possible!
Fact: A radical encounter with Jesus and His love and restoration will forever strip away the belief that homosexuality is natural or acceptable. Is this fact intolerant? Absolutely. God is, always has been, and always will be intolerant of sin. He is intolerant of the sin of homosexual acts just…
Dear Tiffany,
I’ve had a radical encounter with Jesus and his love. His name was Jesus Jimenez. I met him off Grindr while I was visiting San Antonio. Probably not the same guy you’re talking about, but it was radical nonetheless.
Anyways, to adress your post.
Do you think saying “FACT” before you say something false makes it more believable? On a personal note, I actually don’t even believe your god is “FACT,” much less the things he has to say about the way I live my life. But while we’re doing this, let me present some FACTs to you… okay?
FACT: It is none of your business who I fuck, who I date, who I marry, or who I love. If I want to engage in promiscuous activities with Jesus in the backseat of his car, then you can take solace in the fact that YOU’RE NOT INVITED. I will also not stop myself, mid-fuck, and be like… you know who doesn’t approve of this? Tiffany’s religion. Also, the assumption that homosexuals are incapable of anything but lust, and not capable of love, could not be further from the truth.
FACT: Life is better out of the closet. You know what hell feels like? Hell is getting beat up by your classmates and people on the street for being gay… WHILE YOU’RE PRETENDING TO BE STRAIGHT AND NOT EVEN HAVING GAY SEX. How can you hope to love yourself while actively suppressing a major part of yourself? Since coming out of the closet, I have been able to enjoy life to a much greater extent and I have even started to love myself. I wouldn’t change for you or your religion.
FACT: Those groups you listed? Don’t make me laugh. Those people don’t love me. The former president of Exodus International even come out to apologize for his bullshit! See here. You know what those groups want to do? They want to change me - and I’m perfectly happy the way I am, thanks.
Now I know I shouldn’t have bothered with this. You’re just going to say “it’s not about what I think about homosexuality, it’s what GOD thinks! Jesus CAN change you! Homosexuality is STILL a sin and that’s a FACT!”
So here’s one final FACT for you: The people who believe in a god like yours are the people who beat me in the streets, kicked me, ostracized me, tried to change me, tried to make me look at part of myself as something “less than,” and drove me to the brink of suicide.
You can keep your religion. Keep your prayers. Keep it all, I don’t care. But I will not sit idly by as you prey on younger, vulnerable LGBT people and try to sign them up for “pray the gay away” camps where they will only be taught that they are broken.
